Why should I use a vibrator?

I think that women should use vibrators regularly. Vibrators are wonderful. The vibrators that I have available for my patients to purchase in my office are slender, pretty, and coated in a soft silicone covering. They are made from medical grade silicone and plastics. These products are used for personal massage, pleasure, and to help with stretching of the vagina: intimacy aids. I want you to use them to help keep your vagina in shape, stretched out, and functioning well. Vibrators come in all shapes and sizes. There are hundreds of websites that you can surf to buy these products. They are also available in novelty stores. Clitoral vibrators are small, oval-shaped vibrators that you can place strategically between the labia to get the vibration. Clitoral vibrators come in multiple sizes and shapes: Sometimes they are referred to as “bullets.”

It takes most women a lot longer to have an orgasm after menopause. If a couple uses a vibrator as “fore-play,” she is more likely to have an orgasm during intercourse. If you leave a small clitoral vibrator on the clitoris during intercourse, it might be just what you need. Vaginal vibrators are longer and are intended to be put into your vagina. They have lots of shapes and can have a variety of features to them to add to the pleasurable experience. There are combined clitoral and vaginal vibrators as well. These are vaginal vibrators that have a knob that sits on your clitoris at the same time. This way, you get stimulation to the vagina and the clitoris simultaneously. “G”-spot vibrators are shorter vaginal vibrators that reach up to stimulate a special area in the vagina. This area is about one inch inside your vagina. You can reach it by putting your middle finger into your vagina and lifting it up. There is a ridge of folds there that when stimulated give some women a very intense orgasm. Not all women have increased pleasure when this area is stimulated; every woman is made a little bit differently. There are also vibrators that are combined “G”-spot and clitoral vibrators.

Stretching Your Vagina

If a woman has had many years of no activity in her vagina after menopause, it has probably decreased in width and in length. The folds in the vagina which allow the vagina to maintain its “accordion effect” may be gone. Intercourse is painful. It is dry. It is not pleasant at all. A vibrator will help to get the blood flowing to the area again. I am not talking about using a vibrator to have an orgasm (which is wonderful and completely ok); I am talking about using the vibrator as physical therapy. It is used to get the blood flowing to the area and to stretch the vagina back out to its previous width and length. I have my patients put some lubricant (or some estrogen cream) on the vibrator. She can put it in the vagina slowly and, with the vibrator on full vibration, just watch TV or a movie and leave it in there for 15 to 30 minutes every other day or so. If the vagina has decreased in width and length, then she can start with a small, thin vibrator and slowly (under her own pressure) stretch out the vagina. It will stretch back out.   She can gradually increase to a size that is more appropriate for the size of her partner’s penis. When she is stretching her vagina herself, she is controlling the pressure – not her partner; she can do it at her own pace. This way, she can stretch her vagina without the anxiety that comes with the fear of pain from the perhaps quick insertion or thrusting of the penis.   She is controlling everything. A woman can place estrogen vaginal cream on the intimacy aid to use as a lubricant and to stimulate the estrogen receptors. If you start stretching your vagina daily, you will see improvement in the diameter just like going to the gym everyday will increase the size of your muscles. If you also squeeze the muscles in your vagina (Kegel exercises) around the intimacy aid, you will also help these muscles.